What if challenges are the way you have always grown up in life?

By | January 18, 2017

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Yes, it happens. A lot of times we grow up in life with only challenges. A lot of them which pushed us down. And in the process of getting back with life, we just end up growing on to the next level. This over a period of time and after a certain quantity of repetitions just ends up becoming our natural way of growth. And unconsciously, we just end up inviting challenges to grow in life. A lot of them being undesirable challenges. And that’s where in spite of all growth, we end up losing out on celebrating and enjoying the success and just feel unfulfilled with life.

Some background information.

Hey, it’s Dr. Maharaja SivaSubramanian N here. Blogger, Coach, Consultant, Speaker, and Trainer. And let’s get on with the topic diving deep right now. So, one of the things that I have been doing this week has been working on my vision. The vision for my last decade was mostly focused on my education, while the upcoming decade is going to be more focused on transferring all the education into valuable and profitable expression and sharing. This post is one such aha moment about vision building and also what is the role of challenges as part of our growth in life. And let’s get on with the topic diving deep right now.

And another quick disclaimer.

What I am sharing here is part of my own perspective and life lesson too. A part of my own experience, education and all the perspectives coming from there. And very much subjective to changes which otherwise I would label as evolution as I evolve. So, take it for that, another perspective and another way of looking at life. If you feel it can be empowering and you are ready to take responsibility for the consequences, then give it a try. And again, absolutely not a substitute for professional help.

Challenges are not the problem.

Yes, challenges are not the problem. Yes, you got it right, challenges are not the problems. It’s only a few of them which are the problem scenarios. So, what makes a challenge a problem and what doesn’t? It’s all in the perspective, perception, and approach. Along with your position in life.

What makes a challenge a problem?


These are the challenges which make you feel heavy low. The ones you want to definitely get rid off. It’s the following which makes a challenge a problem:
1. If you are not ready for it.
2. You did not ask for it. Somebody else got you into it, rather than you opting for it.
3. You are not prepared. As in, you miss out on the knowledge, know-how, attitude, skills, habits, competence time, resources, to be able to handle it.
4. It does not fit into your top values and priorities. What is not in the top 3 values and priorities rarely get done.
5. You are not able to see any sense of value, meaning, growth or contribution through it. If it just doesn’t make any sense, as in if you don’t get the context, it’s just a gone deal.

And what makes a challenge a welcome one?

These are the challenges which give you the excitement. The ones you want to have, and have more often. It’s the following which makes a challenge a problem:
1. You are ready.
2. You made a choice for it. Either you initiated it or made a choice to join it.
3. You are prepared or ready to get prepared. You either have or are ready to acquire the necessary knowledge, know-how, attitude, skills, habits, competence, time, resources, etc to be able to handle it.
4. It fits into your values and priorities. Or at least it can be optimized to fit in.
5. You are able to see some value and meaning. And also an opportunity to grow and contribute through the same. You are getting the context.

Taking it to the next level.

So yes, that’s what it is many times. The above pointers are some guidelines to tell what makes a challenge a welcome one or a problem one. Every challenge is also an opportunity for something.

To begin with, ask yourself all the above criteria (and also your own criteria) if it is a welcome challenge or a problem challenge. If it’s a welcome challenge and you will like to take it, then good luck. If not, ask if it’s a clear no, then throw it off. And if you can’t, then optimize it into a welcome one.

And sometimes in life, it is not about the challenge. It is all about, do you want the opportunity or do you want that something which you can potentially gain through the opportunity of the challenge? That’s definitely another question to answer.

Where can you do this?

So, make a move. Get the questions answered. And yes, you can always grow up with welcome challenges in your life. And that growth for sure will also be happier, joyful, meaningful and fulfilling.

You can grow up like this in your:
1. Physical well-being. Get on a fitness challenge.
2. The mental model of reality. For if thoughts make things, then think your way through to the things you want to create.
3. Emotional perception and projection of reality. Make happiness, joy, and fulfillment as your nature.
4. Career growth. What if your job or business could be rewarding in all ways? (Financially and also the non-financial factors of job satisfaction, growth, etc.)
5. Environmental empowerment. The environment is definitely powerful than the individual many times. So, what are you exposing yourself to absorb from?
6. Nutritional enrichment. Yes, what you eat, how you eat, and why you eat matters a lot too. Make it count.
7. Social connectedness. Build the society and the connections that will be a dream-reality of your ideal world.
8. Wealthy richness. Sometimes it’s about being wealthy and sometimes it’s about being rich. And many times when you choose the challenges appropriately, you can have both.
9. Spiritual progression. Evolve and progress. Go for it.

What next?

Get on and make a list of all the welcome challenges you can take on. Also, make a huge list of your goals, a vision board if possible. Then, get on to design, adopt, pick, find, opt-in, challenges that are welcome in nature and will give you the opportunity to achieve those goals. (I can definitely help you with designing a challenge in the above areas if you want my professional help).

Go and choose your challenges. Make it a game. Yes, life may be challenging, and also be a great chance to be alive. So, go and be alive.

Best Wishes.
Dr. Maharaja SivaSubramanian N.

And yes, if you want my support or want to work with me, do contact me. My email address is drmaharaja@drmaharajasivasubramanian.com and WhatsApp number is +91-9841118294.

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